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Give Up Porn for Lent

“Why do we preach to the choir about porn? Because the choir is looking at porn!”

I know, I know, I’ve been writing about porn and purity a lot lately. But there’s a good reason—It’s a HUGE problem.

When 64% of Christian men admit to watching porn at least monthly, and at least 21% of youth pastors admit to being addicted, there’s no point in pretending it isn’t happening. As my good friend Matt Fradd is wont to say, “Why do we preach to the choir about porn? Because the choir is looking at porn!” It may be unpleasant to talk about, but it is altogether necessary. Complete Article

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So if you are one of the many men who struggles with pornography, I want to issue a challenge to you: Give up porn for Lent. There is no better time to conquer this sin once and for all than this focused season of purification and conversion leading up to Easter.

  1. It hurts real women – One of the chief seductions of porn is that it feels so harmless at the moment. We rationalize by telling ourselves that we aren’t really hurting anyone, and that everything we see is consensual. The problem is, that isn’t true. Many women who’ve left the industry tell heartbreaking stories of abuse, drug addiction, coercion, trafficking, and more. The porn industry is a horrible place that destroys women and then discards them. When you look at porn, you are contributing to the misery and degradation of countless women. How does that make you feel?
  2. It rewires your brain – Neuroscience is revealing that our brains are not unchanging, but are rather plastic. That means that our brains can be trained and shaped by repeated actions. And guess what? Repeated viewing of porn rewires your brain, and not in a good way. If you want to be an overgrown manchild with a smaller, more infantile brain, go ahead, watch porn. But if you want to be a real man, a man who has control and can make mature choices, you’d better give up porn.
  3. It gets worse – The problem with addictions is that they are almost impossible to compartmentalize or control. Once you are addicted, it always gets worse. That’s just the way our brains work. So perhaps you start out looking at stuff that’s relatively tame. But before you know it, it won’t get you excited anymore. You’ll need something racier and more extreme. And then you’ll be looking at acts so horrible you never could have imagined them, all because that’s what you need to get aroused. Do you really want to end up like Jared?

Holiday Loneliness Not a Good Recipe for Virtue

Conquer Pornography This Christmas

The holidays are a special time for everyone, and for us as Catholics especially. We get together with our friends and family, have time off from work, and get to experience, however dimly, a taste of Christendom with society at large celebrating Christmas with music and secular trappings.

Lonely for the Holidays

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I’ve been there, addicted to lust and looking at pornography every single day. We don’t want to talk about it, yet it is an elephant in the room, a “widely known secret” that we studiously don’t want to discuss.

But the holidays can also, paradoxically, make us realize how lonely we feel. Perhaps we can’t be with family or friends, or don’t have many to speak of. Perhaps our family doesn’t celebrate Christmas the way that we do, and we feel isolated. What should be a time of deep communion and fellowship can instead lead to loneliness and sadness.

Loneliness and lots of time by oneself is not a good recipe for virtue or well-being. Many men, including Catholic men, struggle with addiction to pornography, and the holidays can be an especially trying time for them. The compulsion toward pornography is a deformed desire for that love and fellowship that every person craves and was made for. When we are deprived, for whatever reason, of such love and fellowship, we may choose to seek it through other means, including immoral ones like pornography.

What Can You Do?

Here are several ideas for avoiding temptation to lust and growing in chastity this Christmas:

For those who do have many friends and family, consider inviting to your single friends to your get-togethers. I always appreciated this when I was single and far from family. The joy of experiencing Christmas with another family, even for a few of their events, is unmatched.

For those feeling lonely, find ways to get out among people to interact with. Look for service opportunities at food pantries, shelters, and soup kitchens. For Catholic men, inquire with the Knights of Columbus for ways you can get involved during the season. Find events at your church and nearby churches and join in with ones where you can visit with other people.

For all, strengthen your prayer life and make a resolution to grow in holiness during this holy season. Sign up for an adoration hour, or a second one. Go to daily Mass. Start a novena. Read the Scriptures daily and other good books. Fill your mind and heart with true, good, and beautiful things.

For Serious Catholic Men

Even taking all this advice, I know from experience that the holidays are prime time for falling to temptation to lust. So for Catholic men, I’ve made a special video course to help them conquer lust once and for all.

In this course, I give you an arsenal of weapons to use to fight pornography addiction and win the victory over it, by God’s grace. You will learn about tools, strategies, devotions, and sacramental that you have never heard of before. I include in it a 17-week guided bootcamp where I help you with week-by-week instructions for concrete actions to take to grow strong in purity.

The joy that comes from freedom from lust is incredible, and I want all men to experience it. Being free from the slavery of sin, liberates you to love others and receive their love, and most of all to receive the love of God more fully than ever before. God made us for communion, with each other and ultimately with Him. Communion is the antidote for isolation. Christ became man to enter into that deep communion with us.

This Christmas, make the decision to win freedom from lust. You can conquer it by availing yourself of God’s help. I will join you on your journey and help you be set free to love. It will be the greatest Christmas gift you can give to yourself and your family.

White Ribbon Against Pornography Week Oct. 28 – Nov. 03.

Pornography has become increasingly acceptable, accessible and freely available

The National White Ribbon Against Pornography (WRAP) Week brings together hundreds of national, state and local groups, along with driven concerned citizens in a massive effort to educate the public on the harms from pornography and the many resources available to aid those affected. National WRAP Week always starts the last Sunday of October. The week is intended to inform the public and public officials about the harms of pornography and the need to enforce obscenity and related laws.

The White Ribbon Against Pornography (WRAP) Campaign began with one woman in Butler, PA in 1987. Norma Norris heard a sermon against pornography delivered by the pastor of her Catholic parish. Msgr. Francis Glenn lamented that local prosecutors and law enforcement had been deluded into thinking that people didn’t care about the hardcore porn being sold in her

Pornography has become increasingly acceptable, accessible and freely available

The National White Ribbon Against Pornography (WRAP) Week brings together hundreds of national, state and local groups, along with driven concerned citizens in a massive effort to educate the public on the harms from pornography and the many resources available to aid those affected. National WRAP Week always starts the last Sunday of October.

community. Norma looked at the full pews in the church and said, “That can’t be; we’re here and we care!” Norma then gave herself the challenge to inspire her community and to send out the message: WE CARE! WE COUNT! Norma thought the plan had to be simple, inexpensive, and something to catch the imagination. Soon after, the idea of a simple white ribbon as a symbol of decency came to her, and a movement was born.

Pornography has become increasingly acceptable, accessible and freely available. It is one of the biggest threats to our children’s online safety. Today, any computer literate child can view, either intentionally or accidentally, sexually explicit pornography online–from adult pornography (like the kind that appears in Playboy) to prosecutable material depicting graphic sex acts, love sex shows, orgies, bestiality and violence.

Pornography has been implicated in an increase in teen promiscuity, sexually transmitted diseases, divorce, child sexual abuse, rape, human sex trafficking, and a decrease in worker productivity. “Clearly, children also need protection both from exposure to hardcore pornography and from sexual predators who use this material to groom their victims and arouse themselves.”

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